{"id":10043,"date":"2025-08-22T19:34:25","date_gmt":"2025-08-22T19:34:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lyndahoffman.com\/en-us\/?p=10043"},"modified":"2026-10-13T18:15:52","modified_gmt":"2026-10-13T22:15:52","slug":"become-your-own-best-friend-cultivate-self-trust","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lyndahoffman.com\/en-us\/become-your-own-best-friend-cultivate-self-trust\/","title":{"rendered":"Become Your Own Best Friend: Cultivate Self-Trust"},"content":{"rendered":"

When it all feels challenging, can you rely on yourself to be your own best friend?<\/p>\n

When our relationship with ourselves is loving and solid, we trust. We learn. We grow. We expand. Our actions reflect what matters to us.<\/p>\n

But when we abandon our emotional needs, we create a world that doesn\u2019t align with who we are.<\/p>\n

We make choices that are reactive rather than from our deepest core.<\/p>\n


\nSelf-Abandonment<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Self-abandonment is stealthy. You don\u2019t see it. But you feel it. You feel overburdened, shamed, small and insignificant.<\/p>\n

You feel rudderless.<\/p>\n

Self-abandonment is when you neglect your emotional wellbeing, turn to the person next to you as if they have the answer for you, or do anything not to feel what is actually going on inside of you.<\/p>\n

You reject your insights and emotions. You supress them so much that you may not even be aware of what you\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t trust yourself to feel your emotions. You worry you\u2019ll become overwhelmed. \u201cCan I manage this? Will I lose control?\u201d<\/p>\n

Of course it all feels overwhelming!<\/p>\n

So much of our culture is focused on what we do, how we think, what we know.<\/p>\n

But very little is centered on how to support ourselves skillfully on the inside.<\/p>\n

For many, the habit is to turn away from our inner world. We don’t like difficult feelings and we’re not skilled with them. So we turn toward anything on the outside of us that we believe is more trustworthy than ourselves.<\/p>\n

The result?<\/p>\n

We never learn from our greatest resource: ourselves.<\/p>\n

And this is when you make choices that work against you<\/strong> – whether or not you\u2019re doing it consciously.<\/p>\n

Look at your choices<\/h3>\n

Do you:<\/p>\n