If you want to create something better, but feel stuck, here are some ways you can free yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n
Are you tired of feeling stuck?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Give yourself permission to choose your own future<\/h2>\n\n\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/lyndahoffman.com\/en-us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/creating-your-future-img-a-1024x683.jpg\")
<\/figure>\n\n\n\nFor some, choosing to dream about fulfillment is the same as being \u2018difficult\u2019, as if a win for you means a loss for someone else. Instead of this zero-sum perspective, imagine that you could dream about your life as if it were truly your own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A gift. A rich resource for the good you want to bring to this world. Hold your future as if it were necessary for everyone else. Because it is. You cannot give what you have not mastered in yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The world needs you, and it needs your gifts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Notice what you\u2019ve been complaining about<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Pay attention to your complaints. If you turn them inside out, you\u2019ll be better able to see what you value, and what you want more of in your life. Getting frustrated with how long it takes to do mundane tasks may be about wanting more time to be creative. Getting aggravated at the routinely late garbage collection may be about wanting control<\/a> in some other part of your life. Worries about money may be about safety. Turn this awareness into a positive intention, and you have an action plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\nNotice what you do that keeps you feeling small<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
You may be avoiding asking for a raise because you know your boss doesn\u2019t like \u2018those kinds of conversations\u2019. You say \u2018yes\u2019 when you really want to say \u2018no\u2019. You continue working when you\u2019re tired because you feel it\u2019s expected of you. Any time you ignore what you need, you\u2019ll be treating yourself as if you don\u2019t count. If you feel you don\u2019t count, you\u2019ll behave as if you don\u2019t. You\u2019ll be surviving your life instead of creating it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Watch your language: it counts<\/h2>\n\n\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/lyndahoffman.com\/en-us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/creating-your-future-img-b-768x515.jpg\")
<\/figure>\n\n\n\nOur brains are designed to go to the negative \u2014 but it\u2019s important to be careful with your language, as it will determine what you do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are some ways to switch language that is not accurate nor helpful:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Switch \u201cI\u2019m not good at that\u201d to: \u201cI have never tried to learn how to do that.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Switch \u201cI can\u2019t\u201d to: \u201cI am capable of learning whatever I set my mind to.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Switch \u201cI\u2019m a stress eater\u201d to: \u201cI can learn how to manage my stress more effectively.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Switch \u201cI\u2019ll never be able to afford that\u201d to: \u201cIf I truly want it, I can decide to work toward it. But even if I really can\u2019t afford that Lamborghini, I can relish the idea of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Switch \u201cI\u2019m not smart enough to get that promotion\u201d to: \u201cThat\u2019s just something I tell myself when I\u2019m scared.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Face what you\u2019re avoiding<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
The thing you\u2019re avoiding may very well be \u2018the way\u2019 toward the future you want. You can\u2019t see your future if you\u2019re avoiding it. If you\u2019ve been miserable in your current position, but you haven\u2019t been looking for another one, you\u2019re avoiding something that needs to be faced. Try this: Get started on simply looking, not actually applying. Notice what feelings or thoughts come up as you sit down to do this. What\u2019s there? A fear of being rejected? Being told you\u2019re not enough? That you\u2019re not as good as you thought you were? Feel the vulnerability<\/a>, and do one small scary thing a day anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\nYour body knows what you want<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019re having a hard time visualizing what you want the most, close your eyes. Think about your current situation. What do you notice? More thinking? A tightness in your head? Keeping your eyes closed and your mind blank, imagine something you want to do. Check in with your body. You may notice a tingling sensation in your legs, and a sense of energy moving upward. Or you may feel a warmth around your heart. Now think of what you believe you should do. Where does the energy go? Your head? If it\u2019s all in your head, it\u2019s not the best option for you. Trust what your body tells you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now you\u2019ve taken the steps to clear away the debris.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now you\u2019re ready to write your message in a bottle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Invite the universe to do the work with you \u2014 \u2018build it and they will come\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
One year from now, what will you have created?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/div>\n\n\n\nAre you tired of feeling stuck?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/figure>\n\n\n\nFor some, choosing to dream about fulfillment is the same as being \u2018difficult\u2019, as if a win for you means a loss for someone else. Instead of this zero-sum perspective, imagine that you could dream about your life as if it were truly your own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A gift. A rich resource for the good you want to bring to this world. Hold your future as if it were necessary for everyone else. Because it is. You cannot give what you have not mastered in yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The world needs you, and it needs your gifts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Notice what you\u2019ve been complaining about<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Pay attention to your complaints. If you turn them inside out, you\u2019ll be better able to see what you value, and what you want more of in your life. Getting frustrated with how long it takes to do mundane tasks may be about wanting more time to be creative. Getting aggravated at the routinely late garbage collection may be about wanting control<\/a> in some other part of your life. Worries about money may be about safety. Turn this awareness into a positive intention, and you have an action plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You may be avoiding asking for a raise because you know your boss doesn\u2019t like \u2018those kinds of conversations\u2019. You say \u2018yes\u2019 when you really want to say \u2018no\u2019. You continue working when you\u2019re tired because you feel it\u2019s expected of you. Any time you ignore what you need, you\u2019ll be treating yourself as if you don\u2019t count. If you feel you don\u2019t count, you\u2019ll behave as if you don\u2019t. You\u2019ll be surviving your life instead of creating it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Our brains are designed to go to the negative \u2014 but it\u2019s important to be careful with your language, as it will determine what you do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Here are some ways to switch language that is not accurate nor helpful:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Switch \u201cI\u2019m not good at that\u201d to: \u201cI have never tried to learn how to do that.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Switch \u201cI can\u2019t\u201d to: \u201cI am capable of learning whatever I set my mind to.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Switch \u201cI\u2019m a stress eater\u201d to: \u201cI can learn how to manage my stress more effectively.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Switch \u201cI\u2019ll never be able to afford that\u201d to: \u201cIf I truly want it, I can decide to work toward it. But even if I really can\u2019t afford that Lamborghini, I can relish the idea of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Switch \u201cI\u2019m not smart enough to get that promotion\u201d to: \u201cThat\u2019s just something I tell myself when I\u2019m scared.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n The thing you\u2019re avoiding may very well be \u2018the way\u2019 toward the future you want. You can\u2019t see your future if you\u2019re avoiding it. If you\u2019ve been miserable in your current position, but you haven\u2019t been looking for another one, you\u2019re avoiding something that needs to be faced. Try this: Get started on simply looking, not actually applying. Notice what feelings or thoughts come up as you sit down to do this. What\u2019s there? A fear of being rejected? Being told you\u2019re not enough? That you\u2019re not as good as you thought you were? Feel the vulnerability<\/a>, and do one small scary thing a day anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re having a hard time visualizing what you want the most, close your eyes. Think about your current situation. What do you notice? More thinking? A tightness in your head? Keeping your eyes closed and your mind blank, imagine something you want to do. Check in with your body. You may notice a tingling sensation in your legs, and a sense of energy moving upward. Or you may feel a warmth around your heart. Now think of what you believe you should do. Where does the energy go? Your head? If it\u2019s all in your head, it\u2019s not the best option for you. Trust what your body tells you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now you\u2019ve taken the steps to clear away the debris.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now you\u2019re ready to write your message in a bottle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Invite the universe to do the work with you \u2014 \u2018build it and they will come\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n One year from now, what will you have created?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Are you tired of feeling stuck?<\/p>\n\n\n\nNotice what you do that keeps you feeling small<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Watch your language: it counts<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
<\/figure>\n\n\n\nFace what you\u2019re avoiding<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Your body knows what you want<\/h2>\n\n\n\n