{"id":2355,"date":"2021-05-26T02:53:19","date_gmt":"2021-05-26T02:53:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lyndahoffman.com\/en-us\/?p=2355"},"modified":"2026-10-13T18:16:21","modified_gmt":"2026-10-13T22:16:21","slug":"5-steps-to-dissolving-your-resistance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lyndahoffman.com\/en-us\/5-steps-to-dissolving-your-resistance\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Steps to Dissolving Your Resistance"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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5 Steps to Dissolving Your Resistance<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Self-compassion is a strong predictor of health and growth. It breathes us into being more open and available. Flexible and decisive. Powerful. It provides us with the space to learn from our mistakes without resorting to shame or self-derision.

If you\u2019ve been struggling to cultivate this way of being, you know that it can feel elusive. Maybe even impossible. 

My clients often tell me they have no idea how to \u2018feel\u2019 compassion. \u201cHow do I actually do that?\u201d \u201cThis isn\u2019t logical.\u201d Or, \u201cThis is the way I\u2019ve always been so I\u2019m not sure I can do it.\u201d

The Dalai Lama <\/a>has said that compassion is the basic state of the human mind. So what makes it so difficult for us to practice it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feel free to contact me if you recognize yourself in this story!<\/strong><\/em><\/a>
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Yes, I\u2019m ready<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Why Do We Resist It?<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

As soon as anything goes wrong in your world, you may notice that you\u2019re more self-critical. This is natural. When we feel threatened, we react to protect: fight, flight, freeze. In these moments, it can feel counterintuitive to go to self-compassion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We Resist it Because We\u2019re Afraid of:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n