With this assumption in place, what follows is over-working, over-striving and people pleasing. Value is then measured in deliverables, numbers and outcomes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s nothing wrong in measuring outcomes in this way. The problem only arises when you measure yourself by those standards. When your worthiness is rooted in whether or not you\u2019ve met the objective goal of the organization, you make yourself vulnerable to the prevailing winds of the firm. Worse, you begin to feel less capable \u2013 and this is never true!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Proving mode results in something else that hurts the bottom line of an organization. It shuts down the capacity to grow leaders who can make organizations thrive. If you\u2019re looking for a C-Suite position<\/a>, you want to be self-aware and have well-developed emotional skills. But the scarcity inherent in proving mode puts you into survival. Fight, flight, freeze syphons off all your best inner resources for creative, intuitive and human-centered interactions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Proving is excessively intellectual. Without access to intuition and emotional intelligence to balance your thinking, you lose perspective. You become shut off from the excellent information found in a wider and calmer way of being.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Being is presence. It\u2019s the awareness of what\u2019s in front of you and inside of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In this mode, you\u2019re fully aware of yourself in the context you\u2019re in. Your ego takes a back seat to this awareness because there\u2019s nothing to win or to achieve. You\u2019re able to connect with every part of your physical experience, your breath and your internal states \u2013 every bit as much as you\u2019re aware of your thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In short, Being is awareness itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If Proving is intellectual, <\/strong>then Being is experiential.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Try it on for a moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What happens when you become very present?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Where does your attention go?<\/p>\n\n\n\n What else do you notice?<\/p>\n\n\n\n How are you feeling about yourself?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your potential?<\/p>\n\n\n\n You might have noticed that full presence has an absence of judgment. Your value and worth simply exist. In essence, your experience of the moment makes you part of life. Like you belong. No questions asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is a deep-rooted connection that is unassailable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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