ADHD and Avoidance: Break the Pattern
You have integrity. You care. You value how you show up. And you still find yourself avoiding situations that make you uncomfortable. With ADHD, avoidance is a pattern that’s so easy to fall into. It feels like the right thing to do in the moment, like it’s the only good option available to you. But …
Admin_hoffmann - May 16, 2022
Developing Decisiveness: It’s an Inside Job
How often do you slide into a situation and wonder afterward, “How did I ever get here in the first place?!” If you look back and think about it, you may find that instead of making a clear decision, you just went with the flow – you took ‘the path of least resistance’. How much …
Admin_hoffmann - April 6, 2022
5 Inner Skills for Transforming your Life with ADHD
You’re living with adult ADHD. You feel pulled in all directions. You’re either missing your deadlines or afraid you will. And then there’s that persistent inner voice telling you that you won’t be able to manage whatever comes next. You’re aching for calm and a sense of control. You’re fully aware of what needs to change. …
Admin_hoffmann - February 22, 2022
What is Hope? How do You Get More of it?
I met my best friend in a philosophy class at Concordia University in 1981. Our professor Ed Egan drilled into us that the word ‘hope’ is chronically misused and we should never be caught maligning the word ourselves. To this day, I hesitate to use the word at all in case someone misunderstands what I’m …
Admin_hoffmann - February 22, 2022
Love Boldly – Step Back without Guilt
Loving someone who makes poor choices is hard. We feel incredibly vulnerable. We don’t have control over what our loved one is doing. And we’re afraid of just how bad it can get. The more vulnerable your loved one is, the harder it is to watch the fallout – real or imagined. You feel helpless. …
Admin_hoffmann - October 25, 2021
I Have ADHD: Who Needs to Know?
I’m a big believer in transparency. But it can be hard to know when or what to reveal about your ADHD. Whether it’s a new job or a new relationship, you may find yourself grappling with this question. Do I share? How much? When? Or do I keep it to myself? My heart ached in …
Lynda Hoffman - September 28, 2021
The Big Transition: Emerging from the Pandemic
Transitions matter. They’re meant to be respected for what they are. They’re the time we take to learn, adjust and set ourselves up for what comes next. We’re all in a transition now. Not just back to school, but back to life as we hope it will be post-pandemic. What are you noticing about your …
Admin_hoffmann - August 25, 2021
How to Write your Own Success Story
Everyone’s story is unique. Where your story starts may not be up to you, but where it ends definitely is. Every twist and turn is an opportunity to choose what comes next. Make that choice authentically yours, and you can’t do anything but succeed. Your Rough Draft We all have a different way of finding …
Lynda Hoffman - July 29, 2021
5 Steps to Dissolving Your Resistance
5 Steps to Dissolving Your Resistance Self-compassion is a strong predictor of health and growth. It breathes us into being more open and available. Flexible and decisive. Powerful. It provides us with the space to learn from our mistakes without resorting to shame or self-derision. If you’ve been struggling to cultivate this way of being, …
Lynda Hoffman - May 26, 2021
Why am I not Succeeding? 4 Steps to Strengthen Your Executive Functioning Skills
“The single greatest predictor of…success is executive function.”John Medina, Molecular biologist You’ve hit the wall. You haven’t yet created the outcome you’ve been yearning for. You’re wondering if it’s because you’re not disciplined enough, not motivated enough, or simply not enough. You have a vision, but you find you’re not taking action at the right time …
Lynda Hoffman - April 15, 2021
How to Surrender: Coaching our Overachiever
I can laugh about it now, but I used to believe that attack mode was the best approach to any crisis. As a survivor by nature and an admitted overachiever, I was hugely skilled at being focused, applied and determined with every challenge that came my way. I would fight to stay on top of …
Admin_hoffmann - January 27, 2021
Your partner has Adult ADHD: How to stay when you want to go
You knew when you fell in love that he had adult ADHD. Or maybe you didn’t. Whenever you found out, you never imagined how much it would affect you. Inside. (ADHD in men is distinctive and, as such, this article is focused on this particular male-female dynamic.) You knew when you fell in love that …
Lynda Hoffman - January 26, 2021
Break Free of Your Limiting Beliefs
You don’t have to look very far to see how limiting beliefs can hold you back from living the life of your dreams. Are you feeling stuck? Are you clear about your goals and dreams, but find you’re not making any real progress? Chances are there’s at least one limiting belief lurking in the background, …
Lynda Hoffman - January 1, 2021
Creating Your Future When You Can’t See What’s Next
It’s a common refrain: “I know I need to change, but I’m stuck.” It is often followed by: “I see myself in that pattern, but I keep doing it anyway!” My heart is touched most by: “How do I create something better when I can’t see my future?” As a coach, I sense the ache …
Lynda Hoffman - December 1, 2020
Managing Chaos: Riding the Wave of the Pandemic
When everything is in chaos, what do you focus on? Your lack of control? Trying to control everyone else? Formula one race drivers know that if you look at the wall, you’ll hit it. The same applies to your coping skills during the pandemic. Getting through in one piece requires you to create your own …
Lynda Hoffman - December 1, 2020
What is ADHD?
At Lynda Hoffman Life Coaching in Montreal, I offer ADHD coaching to adults, couples and families who are struggling to create the positive outcomes they desire. It begins with understanding ADHD ADHD is a neurological disorder that affects many areas of life. It is directly linked to weaknesses in the brain’s executive functioning skills—the master …
Lynda Hoffman - November 27, 2020
7 Keys to Saving Your Relationship from ADHD Anger
If you have been living with ADHD anger in your relationship, you know that it leaves little room for that loving feeling. This is because ADHD anger in romantic relationships undermines the best of intentions. It is volatile, intense and frequent. Over time, this behaviour causes a lot of unhealed hurt in both partners. The …
Lynda Hoffman - November 27, 2020
Is ADHD Anger Destroying Your Relationship?
ADHD anger has some unique features that can have a devastating impact on a relationship. Angry outbursts may be a sign you are in an ADHD relationship. You will see that I use the pronoun “he” in this blog. This does not mean that anger and ADHD are exclusive to men! Nothing is implied with …
Lynda Hoffman - November 27, 2020
Conquering Impulsivity in Adult ADHD
Don’t be discouraged. If you are dogged by impulsivity, you already know that it is one of the hardest parts of ADHD to treat, but it is possible to tame it. Learn more about it with the help of Lynda Hoffman Life Coaching in Montreal. First, it is important to recognize impulsivity. It has many …
Lynda Hoffman - November 27, 2020
The Path to Working with an ADHD Coach
Often the best things in life come after many false starts—and this is particularly the case for people with ADHD. As an ADHD coach at Lynda Hoffman Life Coaching in Montreal, the stories I hear about what eventually leads my clients to choose coaching as a way to helpmanage their ADHD symptomsare remarkably similar. They …
Lynda Hoffman - November 27, 2020
The New Data – Old Truth for Supporting Teens with ADHD
PARENTAL NEEDS MATTER: SUPPORTING TEENS WITH ADHD Impossible as it may feel at times, your teen—even your teen with ADHD—can indeed learn to hand in their homework on time, without you supervising their every move. A pilot study published this year by Margaret Silbey (Parent–Teen Behaviour Therapy + Motivational Interviewing for Adolescents with ADHD – …
Lynda Hoffman - November 27, 2020
The Lament of Adults with ADHD: If I Know How to Do It, Why Don’t I Do It?
There are few things more frustrating for adults with ADHD than repeatedly failing to do what they know they need to do. When I first met Steve, he threw up his hands in frustration, saying, “Why don’t I do it? I learned from the best how to get organized, but I just don’t do it!” …
Lynda Hoffman - November 27, 2020
After a Diagnosis of ADHD: 6 Steps to Successful ADHD Coaching
After an ADHD diagnosis, many new clients want to know, “What can I expect from coaching?” This may be especially true for adults with ADHD who are already feeling overwhelmed. They want to change their lives for the better, but they wish they could do less—not more. At Lynda Hoffman Life Coaching I will support …
Lynda Hoffman - November 27, 2020
Strategy #1 for Living with ADHD: Creating Accountability
If you are living with ADHD, you have probably wondered what the secret is to living more successfully. Self-awareness and good strategies are the places to start; you can develop these one small step at a time and, as you do so, you will be answerable to yourself—not someone else. This kind of accountability gives …
Lynda Hoffman - November 27, 2020
Take a Risk, Achieve Your Goals
When we think of risk takers, we think of business innovators: Nikola Tesla, Jeff Bezos or Arianna Huffington. They were ready to take smart risks to create what mattered to them. Are you ready to take a risk to become who you were meant to be? Smart risks are as essential to great personal growth …
Lynda Hoffman - November 26, 2020
4 Steps to Letting Go of Chronic Dissatisfaction
When you wake up every morning feeling like nothing is working, you may be suffering from chronic dissatisfaction. It’s the persistent whisper in the back of your mind that nothing feels quite right in your life: there’s not enough love, inspiration, money, connection, success, fun, clarity or respect – just to name a few. Sometimes …
Lynda Hoffman - November 23, 2020
Design Your Life
When things get too busy and hectic, it’s natural to wonder if life has to be this way. Have you had this thought? Great! It means you’re slowing down. You’re noticing you’re alive — and you don’t want to waste your one precious life in a fog of reactivity, allowing people and circumstances to dictate …
Lynda Hoffman - November 23, 2020
Mastering Your Focus: A Key Factor for Success
It’s actually very simple: what you focus on grows. It doesn’t matter what your goal is, whether professional or personal, how well you focus is everything. Laser-sharp focus will make your efforts efficient, with just the right level of coordination between your goals and your actions. But a busy, distracted and preoccupied mind leads to …
Lynda Hoffman - November 23, 2020
Are You Burning out? How to Recognize and Recover
Burnout is on the rise. In 2015, The World Health Organization predicted that burnout would become a global pandemic within a decade. A 2016 study by Morar Consulting validated this warning when it showed ninety five percent “…of HR leaders said employee burnout is sabotaging workforce retention.” But burnout is not limited to managers and employees. Caregivers, entrepreneurs, professionals, …
Lynda Hoffman - November 13, 2020
Getting Out From Under Toxic Leadership
Toxic leaders are masterful at making people feel sick and helpless. Public shaming, aggressive language and invalidation directly impact a person’s dignity and agency. This leaves people feeling diminished and powerless — afraid there is no good way out. As someone who has worked with many high-level professionals in this situation, I have witnessed capable …
Lynda Hoffman - November 1, 2020
Self-worth
Self-worth is knowing that you are exactly right for this world, just as you are. There is no fixing because you are already whole. Difficulties are merely opportunities for growth and not evidence that you are flawed. And you feel secure and confident because no matter what happens you can trust yourself to learn and …
Lynda Hoffman - November 1, 2020
Authentic Leadership: Master Yourself, Master Your Business
Every business leader I have worked with has worried that they were failing in some fundamental way. The most common complaint I have heard is that they would get drawn into details too often instead of doing what they do best: turning inspiration into vision. Working hard and rushing to get everything done in a …
Lynda Hoffman - October 1, 2020
Mindfulness: Get Started and Enhance Your Well-being
Our minds are naturally very busy, meandering all over the place and some time for no apparent reason. This ability is an asset in many ways. It allows us to be creative, flexible and imaginative which is just what we need when we are problem solving or having fun. But these mental gymnastics can be …
Lynda Hoffman - August 1, 2020
Personal Leadership: Your Ticket to Transformation
Personal leadership is self-awareness, clarity about what motivates you and the ability to put it all into meaningful action. I think most of us would agree that this is an optimal state that we all yearn for. But sometimes it’s hard to tell when we’re truly in charge of ourselves. We may see assume we’re …
Lynda Hoffman - July 1, 2020
A Guide to Achieving Work-life Balance
Many of us rush in order to get everything done – at work and at home. We speed up when all we really want to do is slow down; we work harder when what we really want is freedom. For most people, achieving a satisfying balance between their personal and professional lives seems impossible. There …
Lynda Hoffman - May 1, 2020
How to Change Your Life: Secrets from the Masters of Change
You may have noticed that changing your life can feel like reversing a runaway train. This is because it isn’t as simple as moving to a different city or changing a job. The process is really about transforming your inner world. The first time we experience this type of metamorphosis is adolescence but it doesn’t …
Lynda Hoffman - April 1, 2020
Possibility: Setting the Stage to Achieve a New Goal
I remember hearing as a child, “Don’t be a dreamer. You should have your feet firmly on the ground”—as if to say dreaming was a waste of time, a digression from what was realistic and important. Being firmly on the ground meant access to the venerated place where the serious contenders stood; the place of …
Lynda Hoffman - February 1, 2020
Self-compassion after the Storm
Recent events have left me wondering how people are coping with the unprecedented number of storms hitting North America. The size and frequency of recent storms have impacted us on the inside every bit as much as they have on the outside. When a violent 15-second microburst hit my hometown of Montreal in August 2017, …
Lynda Hoffman - October 1, 2019