ADHD Resources

People are always drawn to those who are real and transparent.

When you show up as yourself – openly – people trust you. Your example makes it easier for them to relax and be themselves, too. They recognize that there’s no artifice in you. No game. They trust you more readily and listen more fully.

Being authentic with others begins by being authentic with ourselves.

Ask yourself,

• How do I know when I’m being authentic?
• What part of myself am I avoiding?
• What part(s) of myself would I love to embrace more fully?

Take your space

Clients who tell me that they’ve lost their sense of themselves also feel small.

Upon reflection, they realize that at some point they’d stopped taking risks. They’d been avoiding conflict. Hiding to feel safer. Deferring to others. Doubting their own voices. They believed that they were victims of their circumstances.

Some questions that supported them in taking their space powerfully may work for you, too.

Ask yourself,

• Where have I been playing small?
• What am I believing that keeps me playing small
• What choices would I make if I knew I was safe?

Body language

Learn to stand tall.

Be prepared to look people in the eye, no matter how unsure you feel. Keep your body open, no crossed arms which suggest a posture of protection. Mirror the body language of the person in front of you.

This may all feel challenging at first, especially if you’ve been playing small for awhile. But our inner experience follows how our bodies lead.

Have you noticed that when you’re in ‘flow’ your body is relaxed and your posture open?

You can deliberately cultivate more flow and more confidence by shifting your body first.

Ask yourself,

• What am I focused on when I stand confidently?
• What belief would support me in cultivating a more direct, relaxed gaze?
• What supports me in being more fully in my body?

Watch your thoughts

Our thoughts create our experience of life.

If we think everything is going well, we will perceive it as going well. If we think that our future is precarious, we will perceive it that way.

You can see how our minds are set up to have a naturally skewed grasp of reality. This is because our minds are designed to create meaning, not to observe neutrally. We have up to 60,000 thoughts per day and 80% of them are negative.

Moreover, repetitive thoughts can become deeply ingrained in our minds, making it difficult to change our thought patterns and break free from negative thinking.

“Charisma is the result of effective leadership, not the other way around.” Warren G. Bennis

With love and gratitude,
Lynda